How much should a parent push their children to do well in life, middle school, college and life in general?

Basically what is the limit, how much freedom should they get, is something working for you?How much should a parent push their children to do well in life, middle school, college and life in general?
They shouldn't PUSH.





They should set guidelines. The more responsible and reliable the child, the more privliages they get.





So say your kids not a A student, ok well it happens. Don't ground them for a B. But if their grades start slipping much lower then its time to talk business.





I beleive the same goes with working (when they are old enough) and chores. Set guide lines, if you get a, b, and c done then you get to do d, e and f.





Good luck!How much should a parent push their children to do well in life, middle school, college and life in general?
there's no way to set a limit. This is going to vary from person to person from family to family.
It depends on the kid, but basically, I gave mine as much freedom as they could handle, depending on their age and maturity. When they showed they couldn't handle it (i.e., forgot to call me if they were going to be late, or went somewhere else different from the original plan without letting me know), they found their freedom temporarily severely curtailed. :-)





Pushing only makes you frustrated and the kid stressed. Real motivation comes from within, not from someone with their foot in your butt all the time. So, growing up, kids have to be encouraged to reach for excellence in an area they are passionate about.





As a parent, you also have to be careful that you are helping them grow in the direction THEY want to go, not the one that YOU think they should grow in. There's nothing more unhappy than a kid who has been raised with the expectation that they are going to be a doctor -- and what they really want to be is a teacher or a writer. Also, support their interests over the years -- if they want to try a theatre production, help them plan their schedule around rehearsals. If they want to try soccer, get 'em soccer cleats. If they want to dance, make sure their ballet shoes fit perfectly. Give kids a chance to try many different things, and help them find their strengths.
Parents concentrate way too much on forching college and career onto there child. No one even cares anymoe if there child is happy. Its sad.





College is NOT for everyon, and there shouldnt be a problem with that. But in American society, ther is.





Its pathetic and disturbing.
I believe in giving children lots of love and the tools they need to get along in life. I don't believe in pushing. If they really want something, they'll pursue it with a vengeance. BUT if they want my help figuring out ways to achieve something, I try to do that without doing the work for them. But then, I'm pretty non-competitive, which isn't the norm in the USA. I do expect good manners and kind behavior from my kids, much more than a certain level in grades.
Give them freedom to do what they want as long as its right. Like if they want to go to the movies let em go. If they wanna smoke drugs dont let em. Just know what their doing and make sure its not illegal,harmful,or against your beliefs. Always push them to do well and let them know what your standards are.