Please answer, I will appreciate it very much!What advice would you give to a teenager considering becoming a parent?
I was 23, my ex was 18. Yes, my ex.
I'm not a big fan of citing other people's statistics, so I'll say tell them to look around at people who had kids early. How many of them are still together after, say, 5 years? How about 10 years?
Add to that people who can show you video evidence of their kids misbehaving badly, and I think you've got a pretty convincing point there.What advice would you give to a teenager considering becoming a parent?
I would say... Please think really hard about it. I was 26 when I had my first child I was ready %26amp; it was still a major life change. That child should be the most important thing in your life. No more hanging out with your friends, no more just going when you want. Now you have a child to think about. No spending your money on new clothes at the mall. Now you have diapers %26amp; formula to buy. I could go on %26amp; on about this. You must be ready for this huge change in your life.
u should take time and discusse the situation with ure boyfreind just to make sure this is realy what u two are ready for.remember though its not always safe u can get diseases.u allso have to think about whos gunna do what.like for instance whos gunna make the money.u get what im saying.dont have a kid at too young of an age becuse ure life is just starting.remember its not all fun and games when u have a kid its alot of responsibility.
Having a baby changes your life. Your world no longer revolves around you but the baby and everything that comes with that. It is the most responsibility a person can have in their life so it is not something to be taken lightly and not something that can be reversed.- well really shouldn't be.
parenting take a lot of patients and hard work and being able to provide for your child
You can't go out on a whim anymore.
No extra $ for yourself.
Forget sleeping.
Your friends will change, they won't have much in common anymore.
It's hard as hell to finish school or work.
Think long and hard! It is very scary when you are young. Once you have that child you are responsible for he/she for the rest of your life. No more freedom at all! How can you take care of a child when you are still practically a child yourself? Sex is fun and all, but use protection!
Here's a CON - why you shouldn't
I have two children and both with special needs - I did not anticipate that seeing how my family has no special needs issues.
I was working during my pregnancies and morning sickness, pregnancy woes, the heat or the cold made my pregnancy unbearable. I became claustrophobic and couldn't stand in elevators with two or more people - again didn't anticipate that.
Standing up in the bus (cuz no one would give you a seat) after a long day at work is heartbreaking and you are getting fatter and more tired each passing day.
Labor although much better than most was still excruiating. I was very slender 115pds prior to pregnancy and gained 55 pds - Baby was 8pds 3oz - both were huge for my size and long. labor was too fast for drugs - that hurt.
From the day they were born they have been costing me money and time, but I made my choice so boo hoo for me. I have a great paying job so I lucked out there. I am glad I waited becuz I could not do this with minimum wage. I dunno how people do it.
Parenting is one of the hardest jobs out there, but consider the possibility of that parent being a 15-year-old who goes to school and holds a part time job as well or who has to drop out of school and depend on mommy or daddy or the boyfriend. I didn't start until I was 26 and it was still difficult for me going to university, working and parenting - juggling courses, childcare and work helps build character if it doesn't kill you first. It was easier with my second because I had a better job by then, I got to stay home for six months on maternity leave and only had to juggle daycare and work.
I am still waiting to take a vacation and I don't suppose it will happen till they are both 18 and over - even finding 'm茅 time' is scarce. The responsibilities are endless. brestfeeding, diaper changes, burping are minor compared to the age 2 - 18 stuff you have to go through. A caring attitude is needed which includes tolerance, patience and understanding - how much patience do you think you have for a crying baby with colic who stays up all night - night after night and with you getting no sleep. God forbid that you should get a partner who is not as helpful or inclusive.
You need patience, money and time. They are cute as a bunny and well worth the effort, but the hard work is far greater than you think. Take your time and enjoy life now, be kid, be a teenager. There is still plenty of time to be a parent. You still have alot to learn in order to be a good parent like being patient, unselfish, in control, dependable, responsible, loving unconditionally. You need learn those things before you can teach those things. You need to be a parent to guide your child - how is that going to happen when you are growing up with your child. That's the hard way. Don't do it. Give it a few years.
My advice to a teenager considering having a child is wait...baby's need alot of love, care and attention. I had a baby very early... though i was married it was still very difficult. It puts a lot of strain on you. You have to remember baby's can't return love, they are not able at such a young age...they require a lot of money and its not like they are a toy...when your finished for the day you can't throw them in the closent until your ready to play again. A Baby's demand on a parent is constant...you have to be willing to sacrifice everything that you've worked hard for and set aside your goals in life because now you have a child, who should be your main priotity. Weekly spending bill's for an infant...20.00 a week in diapers... 36.00 a week in formula... 3.98 a week for diaper cream... and thats just some of the nessecity's...
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