How important is it to have a good loving relationship with the parent of your child?

What are the consequences for a child whose parents don't get along?How important is it to have a good loving relationship with the parent of your child?
its important for a child to grow up knowing that their parents arent at constant logger heads. me and my daughters father are no longer together. yes we have our arguements but never in front of our child. we are civil towards each other and respect each other. my daughter is loved by both our families and us and has two happy homes that we both strived for, for her.How important is it to have a good loving relationship with the parent of your child?
It sounds like the parents don't live together. To me that's an important part of the question.





If the two parents do not live together (they are divorced) then there certainly doesn't need to be a ';loving'; relationship between them. They do need a lot of respect for each other and to show the children that they 'care' about their feelings.





If the two parents are still together, then absolutely they need to be loving. That goes for a parent with a boy/girl friend as well. The child needs to see what a healthy relationship is like. If there's a lot fighting and the love is gone, the parents should separate so the child does not develop under a dysfunctional relationship.
You are talking about two different things. Ideally all parents will have a loving relationship and express love for each other in front of the child so that showing the person you care about affection becomes the norm.





But sometimes parents split and at that point it is VERY important that they have a GOOD relationship. It is important that they put their child's needs ahead of their anger, resentment and disappointment. This is co-parenting. My kids who are 21 and 19 were in this situation for awhile. Their dad and I separated for a couple of years. I dated other people and so did he. The entire time we co-parented. This meant that when my kids had a choir concert at school we didn't just both of us show up but we sat together as well. When there were meetings to attend at school we went together to talk to the kids teachers.





We did not EVER argue in front of them. We neither one ran the other parent down to the kids. It is so important to do that because kids think differently than adults do. When mom and dad split kids are SURE its because they did something wrong or were too much trouble for them. They blame themselves. When you argue in front of a child, even a baby they lose their stability and foundation for their belief system. To a child parents are all knowing and when you argue or run the other parent down in front of the child it chips away at their self esteem.





Now, the amazing thing that happened in my family was that by putting the kids first, which was how we separated in the first place because we didn't want them to grow up in an unhappy home with two parents who resented each other, we actually gave each other space. By co-parenting we still had contact but it had limitations on it in that we couldn't argue in front of the kids. So we would have to wait and by waiting we calmed down and by calming down we talked rather than screamed and listened rather than thought of what we were going to say next. We worked a lot of our problems out and found that we were really great friends. Which lead us to date and eventually get back together.





Both of our kids know that we love them and will always put them first and that keeps them secure that there is always a safe haven for them. When parents don't love each other and stay together for the kids it never works as the kids always know and in their minds the parents are staying and miserable because of the kids. So yeah it has huge consequences for everyone involved.
I think at the least it should be a respect factor. Kids need to see that you can get along with all people even ones who are hard to get along with. If you cant get along with their dad then just be civil. I think it is important for kids to see their parents in loving relationships if they are together. If they cannot stay together then they need to keep the arguing away from the kids
It all depends on the guy you're having a baby with. If the guy is a drinker, and uses drugs. the best thing is for the baby not to be around that kind of irresponsible behavior. I mean having a family with a mother and a father is always great. But now a days I see a lot of women being mommy and daddy, and doing a fantastic job. I also see a lot of father being mommy and daddy too. It all depends on what kind of relationship is there to begin with.
The example you set makes them who they will be as adults. If you are loving and respectful to your partner they will be that way to theirs. That why abuse is a cycle, kids who grow up in abusive families will most likely grow up to be abusive as adults. It's not enough to tell them what is right, you have to show them by setting an example with your own life.
My parents divorced when I was 2. I had visitation with my dad every Monday and some holidays and a few weeks at summer. My parents didn't speak except through their lawyers or through me for 25 years. On my wedding day, they were forced to meet face-to-face and they were cordial, but they HATE eachother. Did it affect me? Not at all! Both are remarried to other people that they love, and I came out just fine. No issues, perfectly normal child. :)
It puts a lot of stress on a child if they see their parents disagreeing, they could end up feeling like they should be taking sides. Even if parents don't get along they should at least be civil towards each other in front of th child and not put the other down to their kids.
they could grow up hating one of the parents knowing that they can play the two against each other. the child may think they caused the problem. the best thing is to either find a comon ground when it comes to the child or one cut ties all togeather,
I don't think it is necessary to love one another but I don't think it is okay to argue in front of children then they learn that and could have dis functional relationships because they think it is normal.
i think there should be a rule you cant talk bab about them around your child but my parents HATE each other and i mean HATE they cant even be in the same room and i turned out fine honer student got accepted early into med school so i was fine
Very important... To grow children you need to have a good stable family.